There are moments in life when you just have to sit back and marvel at God's hand of providence.
I've been having quite a few of those moments lately.
My oldest daughter, Becca, has been courted by a fellow whom she has known since she was about four. We used to attend church with his family and over the years we have kept up with the family happenings. We have many memories of great times together.
This past year Peter and Becca were reacquainted and their friendship began to grow. Pretty soon friendship turned into intentions of a different kind! And, two weekends ago Peter flew down from Seattle to propose to Becca.
Peter is in the Coast Guard and stationed out of Seattle. This made for a very different looking courtship and now an engagement. We are all very excited for Becca and can't wait to call Peter son and brother!
It looks like the wedding will be in May.
I am now officially taking on two different roles: bride and mother-of-the-bride!
I thought I would share with you Becca's engagement story. She shared this with her friends on Facebook...
"Peter wanted to take me on a surprise adventure on Friday....so he picked me up on 9am and we headed out towards the Coast. As we approached San Fransisco I asked him if this was the surprise…his reply was no. We continued on across the Golden Gate Bridge. The weather was beautiful and an absolutely perfect day for a drive.
We then made our way to Highway 1. This is one of my favorite roads and one I would love to someday travel from beginning to end. At this point Peter told me that we were on Highway 1 and that if I found a place to pull over to just let him know. I saw this beautiful lookout place and asked for him to pull over….not knowing of course that this was the spot he had planned for more then just a simple lookout.
We followed this trail to the lookout and enjoyed the scenery and the weather. Peter pointed out planes and such. Then as he pulled me to him he started saying "Becca….I am so in love with you and can't imagine my life with out you in it…you complete me." He then said "I have something to show you and pointed me in the direction of the fence. At that second I was thinking he must have drawn a heart with P+B or something like that. Then I saw "Becca, will you marry me?"
I didn't get it and it took me a second to understand that he was proposing!! I turn around to Peter. He was getting on one knee…as he did he pulled out the ring and said "Rebecca Ellie Davis will you marry me?" and I replied "YES!!". What closely followed was putting on the ring, looking at it, hugging and just complete happiness. Peter pointed over to some bushes and trees where Nate, my brother, and Jeff, my future father-in-law, were taking pictures and video of the whole event.
Afterwards we decided to travel back to San Fran and walk down to Pier 39, one of my favorite places in SF, and had a late lunch at The Eagle. It was wonderful….eating outside, watching the sun set. Eating a very yummy dish of crab and sitting next to the most wonderful guy in the world. After that we headed to Stockton to go watch the Stockton Thunder Hockey Team play against Idaho something-or-other, it was my first hockey game and I LOVED IT!!!! Stockton ended up losing but it was a perfect way to end a most wonderful, exciting, unforgettable day. "
A picture of the beautiful ring that Peter gave Becca.
So, as you can imagine, there were some very difficult emotions to deal with. We kind of grow up with the thought that our daughters are going to have a dad to help guide them through the courtship process and help them determine if the guy that is pursuing them is the one God intends for them. We kind of take for granted that our daughters will be walked down the aisle by their daddy. But, what happens when daddy is not there to give his daughter away?
Eric's death is still fresh in our hearts which makes this occasion so bitter-sweet. Bitter (tasting, that is) because we don't have him here to share in this beautiful event. Sweet because my Becca has found a kind, caring man whom I believe will take care of her.
I know that there are many, many young ladies who have had the same kind of trauma in their very young lives and so I don't want to overemphasis the tragedy or emotions that go along with it. But, I also want to remember that each traumatic event is a personal one.
For Becca, this will be an emotional journey and, I pray, I journey that will build her faith.
For me, it is an emotional journey of a different sort. I hurt for my sweet daughter who will not know the support and love of her dad through this moment. But, I trust, as I have all along this path, that this too is for the benefit of my personal growth and that of Becca's.
He is faithful and His will is perfect.
I pray that the Lord blesses Peter and Becca with a fruitful life together.