Pastor's sermon was on marriage yesterday. As you can imagine it was not an easy sermon to sit through....I would love to be married right now.
But, I do believe that God's providence supercedes my desire to be comfortable. So, I sat through the sermon determined to learn something for possibly a future marriage or be encouraged by the marriage that I already experienced.
Pastor quoted a wonderful author by the name of Gary Thomas from one of my favorite books "Sacred Marriage". If you have not read this book it is about time you do. The quote is in the form of a question that is the premise of the whole book: "What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?"
I always use to say that Eric was my particular sanctification. God placed him in my life to help me grow up. And, as I reflect back on our marriage of twenty years I have to admit that there has been a lot of growing up over the years. Through Eric God was able to mold my character.
This is what I don't understand...why did God take away this incredible tool that He had used to make me holy? Even so I know the answer to my question. It is found throughout the Word of God...He has another plan now. Eric's job was done even though God's work in my life is not.
His death and my mourning is another step on the road to holiness. Will I accept the challenge or refuse to follow? It is written on my heart to continue on....perseverance of the saints.
My challenge to you is to see your husband or wife as a gift from God. Not in the "lucky to have him" kind of gift but rather a gift of sanctification. Find milestones in your own life that show the growth in your character through the help of your spouse. If you can't find much then set your focus of your marriage on holiness rather than happiness and you will see God work through your marriage. By the way, one of the side benefits is that true happiness comes to those who seek holiness in their marriage. I had that...wish I still had it but I continue to trust (again that word comes up) in God's sovereign plan.